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Showing posts with label Encouragement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Encouragement. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Are you ready for Orlando?!
Wondering what "Orlando" is? It is an Early Trauma and Attachment Annual Meeting (aka a mom's retreat) and you can hop over to Corey's blog and check out the details.
What I can tell you from my experience, is that it is a glorious weekend of relaxing and chatting with women who "get it." You don't have to wipe snotty noses, or butts, (except your own cause I'm not doing it for ya.) and you don't have to deal with taking care of anyone else but yourself.
I had some first's this year on my trip and that was cool.
I had an alcoholic beverage with my breakfast, in the airport, because I could and it was damn good.
I ran/walked my first 5k.
I hula hooped and got it to stay up on my waist for the first time ever!
I stood in a room and talked to moms openly knowing I was NOT being judged.
I was able to share our families therapeutic parenting experiences/advice and moms actually listened instead of telling my they didn't have those problems with their kids. (Because you know they're perfect angels. *gag*puke*)
And let me tell you about the hugs in Orlando. They are so awesome and amazing and I can't WAIT to get back there and have another or several more. They are not fake, but full of "I get it", and "I know what you are going through." Let me tell ya ladies, THAT is a hug that a trauma mama doesn't forget! Gee, did I make myself sound like a weirdo over a hug? Oh well, if you are a mother of trauma you'll get that.
If you parent trauma, and think you are at an ok place and don't really need a break, you might want to reconsider. I felt the same way because my kids were in a good place and my mom was on her death bed and I almost didn't go. I am so glad I did because with my mom gone these women are a HUGE support network. Some have even lost their moms and it is comforting to know I am not alone with that too.
What I can tell you from my experience, is that it is a glorious weekend of relaxing and chatting with women who "get it." You don't have to wipe snotty noses, or butts, (except your own cause I'm not doing it for ya.) and you don't have to deal with taking care of anyone else but yourself.
I had some first's this year on my trip and that was cool.
I had an alcoholic beverage with my breakfast, in the airport, because I could and it was damn good.
I ran/walked my first 5k.
I hula hooped and got it to stay up on my waist for the first time ever!
I stood in a room and talked to moms openly knowing I was NOT being judged.
I was able to share our families therapeutic parenting experiences/advice and moms actually listened instead of telling my they didn't have those problems with their kids. (Because you know they're perfect angels. *gag*puke*)
And let me tell you about the hugs in Orlando. They are so awesome and amazing and I can't WAIT to get back there and have another or several more. They are not fake, but full of "I get it", and "I know what you are going through." Let me tell ya ladies, THAT is a hug that a trauma mama doesn't forget! Gee, did I make myself sound like a weirdo over a hug? Oh well, if you are a mother of trauma you'll get that.
If you parent trauma, and think you are at an ok place and don't really need a break, you might want to reconsider. I felt the same way because my kids were in a good place and my mom was on her death bed and I almost didn't go. I am so glad I did because with my mom gone these women are a HUGE support network. Some have even lost their moms and it is comforting to know I am not alone with that too.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Can't we all just get along?
What is it with women's nature that makes it is easier to tear each other down instead of lifting each other up?
I overheard two women talking in the bathroom, at the gym, in the cattiest tones.
#1: "My sister-in-law called me the other day to ask what brand of vitamin D I use. She took her son to have a check-up and he is deficient. I was like, Well duh! You live in a place that rains 365 days a year!"
#2: "Good grief!" (Insert lots of eye rolling here and negative facial expressions.)
Looking back, I wish I could have been quick with words, in a nice tone of course, I would have said, "Don't you think it is cool she thinks you are the expert on vitamin D so she asked you?"
I don't know about you, but I am looking for ways to build people up instead of tear them down, even if they are perfect strangers. We need to encourage and be loving to one another. Life is hard enough without people tearing us down.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
I overheard two women talking in the bathroom, at the gym, in the cattiest tones.
#1: "My sister-in-law called me the other day to ask what brand of vitamin D I use. She took her son to have a check-up and he is deficient. I was like, Well duh! You live in a place that rains 365 days a year!"
#2: "Good grief!" (Insert lots of eye rolling here and negative facial expressions.)
Looking back, I wish I could have been quick with words, in a nice tone of course, I would have said, "Don't you think it is cool she thinks you are the expert on vitamin D so she asked you?"
I don't know about you, but I am looking for ways to build people up instead of tear them down, even if they are perfect strangers. We need to encourage and be loving to one another. Life is hard enough without people tearing us down.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
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